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How to Have Better Self-Control With Food

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How to Have Better Self-Control with Food

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Written By:
Caitlin Beale, MS, RDN

Key Takeaways

Imagine a world where you eat food because it tastes good, nourishes your body, and you only eat as much as your body needs. Sounds idyllic, but the reality is that many people struggle with how to have self-control with food.

The word control is often linked to words like discipline or denying oneself pleasure—not really what you want to associate with food.

Instead, think of control as finding a way to feel calm and centered around food.

This may mean letting go of food-related rules that probably feel like they help, but really just lead to a cycle of guilt and shame where you feel even less in control.

You've probably been eating and thinking about food the same way for years, so it takes time to unpack it all and make long-term changes—but it's possible!

This article will dive deep into why these patterns start and what steps we can take to break them to gain better self-control with food.

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What Does It Mean to Have Self-Control With Food?

Control is defined as the power to restrain or influence, so self-control means the ability to exercise restraint over one's own impulses.1

Does having control over what you eat mean you never enjoy a treat or overindulge?

No. But it means you can do so with awareness and acceptance (and, most importantly, without guilt).

Feeling in control may mean that you are more in tune with natural hunger signals and better able to distinguish between emotional and physical cravings. 

On the flip side, feeling out of control may indicate struggles with emotional eating, binge eating, overeating, or an inability to recognize how much food your body really needs.

Some signs to look out for include the following:

  • Overeating followed by guilt and shame.
  • Using food as comfort when feeling stressed (or eating mindlessly).
  • Feeling like you can't keep certain foods in the house.
  • Eating until you feel sick to your stomach.

What Does Science Say About Self-Control and Food?

Here's what you should know: Studies show that people who regularly restrict food for weight loss or maintenance are more likely to overeat or impulsively eat.2

In other words, fighting with your body to stay in control actually backfires and leads to feeling even more out of control. Let's back up and examine why that may be the case.

To say that each person's relationship with food is complex is an understatement.

Reasons can range from family influence to how diet culture tries to tell you how to look or eat. 

You may have spent your life telling yourself what and when you can eat, so it's not a surprise if you just get tired of this internal food discipline battle over time.

Some research suggests self-control and food restraint is like an over exercised muscle that never gets a break. A lifetime spent following diets and food rules means the muscle becomes depleted and weakened.3

The more someone diets, the more out of control they may feel with food and eating.4

Practicing more control and restraint isn't the long-term answer to finding a healthy relationship with food.

To feel in control means learning to let go—which is probably the opposite of what many people think they need to do.

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7 Tips to Stop Letting Food Control Your Life

It takes time to relearn how to eat without restrictions or rules, but taking small steps can help you feel more in control and have a healthier relationship with food.

1. Give Yourself Permission to Eat

If you've spent your life giving yourself rules about food—or deprived yourself of certain foods because they're "bad"—then the first step is to give yourself permission to eat.

This might mean recognizing that all foods can fit into your life or removing the rules and labels you place on food. 

Remember, more restrictions can make you more likely to feel out of control when presented with those same foods. It takes time to relearn how to eat without guilt, but it is possible.

Working with a dietitian can help you create a plan to feel safe as you bring previously "forbidden" or "guilty" foods back into your life.

2. Get Back in Touch With Hunger Cues

So many of us have taught ourselves to ignore when we feel hungry. Or trained ourselves to eat based on what time it is or when the next meal "should'' be but not when you're actually hungry.

Another step towards creating a healthier relationship with food is to relearn how to listen to your body's natural hunger signals and recognize when it's time to eat based on those cues.

To do this, focus on how your body physically feels when you're hungry so you can start to differentiate true hunger from emotional hunger.

True hunger will go away with any food, while cravings or emotional hunger often require a specific food for satisfaction.

Signs of natural hunger signals can include:5

  • Growling stomach or cramping
  • Feeling lightheaded or dizzy.
  • Irritable (aka hangry).
  • Fatigue.

Give yourself time if it's challenging to differentiate between emotional and physical hunger.

You've spent twenty or thirty years ignoring how you feel, and it will take some practice!

3. Stop Dieting

Diet doesn't have to mean a set of rules restricting what you can and cannot eat. It can simply refer to your usual pattern of eating.

As mentioned earlier, a lifetime of dieting for weight loss can deplete your self-control around food, so moving away from being on a "diet" is essential.

Your goal is to eat intuitively rather than follow a rigid plan or rules.

Be compassionate with yourself as you move through this process.

Tuning into what your body is telling you and how foods make you feel can all help you to learn how to eat without guilt.

4. Surround Yourself With Food That Makes You Feel Good

Letting go of food rules doesn't mean your pantry is filled with nothing but candy.

You are more likely to eat intuitively and mindfully when surrounded by foods that make you feel good—both physically and emotionally.

Foods like fresh fruits and veggies to snack on, healthful grains to fill you up, and proteins like eggs, chicken, or beans for sustenance.

Nut butter, seeds, and avocados to keep you full and satisfied. Most importantly, foods that you actually enjoy eating.

If you don't feel in control around certain snacks or treats, it probably doesn't make sense to keep them in your kitchen right away, but you can explore how to reintroduce them mindfully while feeling satisfied from regularly eating nutrient-rich meals and snacks.

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5. Avoid Skipping Meals

Coming home after a long day where you barely had time to eat a snack, let alone lunch, can make it challenging to feel any sort of control around food.

Your body will seek out anything and everything just to ensure it doesn't go hungry again. 

But what happens? You overeat throughout the evening to play catch up, go to bed feeling uncomfortable, wake up (possibly still full from the night before) and skip breakfast or even lunch. So the cycle repeats itself.

Starting your day with more than coffee or tea can feel challenging if you aren't used to it, and you may even wake up feeling a little nauseated.

Think of starting the day with anything, even a small bowl of berries or yogurt, just to get used to the habit and avoid skipping meals.

The same goes for lunch. You don't have to sit down to a gourmet meal, but just try to get into the habit of eating something when you notice those first signs of hunger.

6. Meal Plan

Meal planning doesn't have to mean setting a strict plan for how much you'll eat each day. It can be a valuable tool to take pressure off figuring out what to eat each day, especially when pressed for time or feeling hungry and vulnerable. 

Planning ahead can be as simple or as detailed as you want it to be. You can focus on a few dinners that can also be used for leftovers or include all meals and snacks.

You can build a grocery list based on your plan, so you know what to buy and won't be left staring into an empty fridge when you're hungry.

7. Find Pleasure in Non-Food Related Activities

You might have realized how often you turn to food for comfort, distraction, or pleasure, but as you start paying attention to natural hunger signals, it becomes more apparent.

Try to start exploring other ways to find joy without turning to food. You can try making a list of activities or things that bring you pleasure and have it somewhere in your kitchen to refer to as needed.

You can write down anything—from taking a hot bath, running or riding a bike in the park, calling a supportive friend, or watching a favorite TV show.

It doesn't have to be complicated; it could be as simple as taking a few extra minutes to savor your cup of coffee in the morning or enjoying how the sun shines through your window.

Work With a Dietitian to Create a Personalized Plan

If making changes feels overwhelming, you don't have to do it alone. Working with a dietitian can give you expert guidance tailored to your life so you can feel comfortable and confident as you make these changes.

Think of a dietitian as your cheerleader, coach, and health expert all in one.

They understand how to make lasting changes and break down overwhelming goals into manageable steps for success.

With the help of a dietitian, you have someone in your corner who understands how to work with your specific needs and move forward in ways that feel right for you. 

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